Friday, November 9, 2012

I don't think women can have it all either....

Interesting read - a BigLaw attorney left her job and wrote a departure memo detailing her daily hectic life and how she cannot excel and please both her family and her boss.  Perhaps I should have written a similar e-mail! (I didn't write anything)

Here was my day routine (this was true even when child was 12 months old):
5:30 AM - wake up, get bottles ready, pack pump, get dressed
6:00 AM - head out the door, commute to work, get coffee on the go.  Eat in the car.
6:45 AM - start my day
7:00 AM - Hear about my patients for the day
7:30 AM - go back to my computer to read progress notes from overnight/review vital signs/lab results and/or see the patients who are sick first
8:15 AM - random emergency of either a true patient emergency or an angry patient's parent demanding to be seen, or a random hospital staff person wanting to chat about the plan for the day before I have seen all my patients.
9:00 AM - hopefully have started seeing patients by then.
9:30 AM - pump
(If I have students or results, start rounds at 9:45 AM and end by 11:00 AM)
Then the day really depends on how busy the hospital is, how many emergencies there are.  On a good day I can get lunch at 11:00AM.  On a bad day, I have to squeeze lunch in at some point.. hopefully by 2:00 PM
11:30 AM - eat lunch, call consultants while eating, write my daily notes
Between 12:30PM and 4:00 PM its either following up on the crazy stuff in the morning, seeing new patients in the emergency room, or kicking back and relaxing (VERY RARE - maybe in the summer when nobody is sick)
1:30 PM - pump
5:00 PM - tell the night shift about my patients for the day
5:45 PM - drive back home
6:30 PM - either get food or quickly cook food/ nurse baby
7:30 PM - dinner, feed baby
8:30 PM - bathtime/put baby to bed,  husband cleans all the pump parts and old bottles
9:30 PM - get my progress notes done (most of the time I have no time to start notes at work)
11:00PM - shower, prep next day's milk and food, get to bed.
1:30 AM - wake up nurse baby
3:00 AM - wake up nurse baby
4:00 AM - wake up nurse baby

Night Routine:
4:00 PM - drive to work
5:00PM - hear about patients
- either see a patient nearly every hour.. or wait around.. and the patients start coming in at 1:00 AM after I've decided its not worth staying up to see if patients come
7:00 PM - dinner/pump
1:00 AM - pump
6:00 AM - pump
7:00AM - tell morning person about patients
8:30 AM - get home, chug coffee
- take care of baby, etc, pray she naps.
11:30 AM - start nap with baby
2-3:00 PM - wake up, realize baby has been playing by herself for a while while trapped in room with lethargic mommy
[then prep dinner... or prep for another night of work]

I think my very worst set of work days was when I worked Saturday and Sunday night back to back.  I went to mass Sunday morning after a Saturday night shift.  I think I maybe got 2-3 hours of sleep within 48 hours.  Needless to say, I did not feel very good.

7 Quick Takes - the Fourth!

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I LOVE Daylight Savings! - Umm never ever thought I would say that, as I had frequently been on the end of working an extra hour on night shift.  But it works great with kids!  I'm so glad my toddler can't tell time - now she wakes up earlier and goes to bed earlier :).
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Overcoming inertia for daily mass - it had always been something that I had thought about doing.  In college, I lived right next to the Catholic church.. but somehow  I never quite had the motivation to make it a regular thing.  Since daylights savings, I've had no excuse!  I drop someone off for public transportation in the morning, and its right next to the church at the time I drop them off!  My tot and I made it to mass 4 times this week!  Its an awesome way to start off the day!
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Another Catholic blogosphere controversy - another one besides skirts/pants - I had no idea that blessing children in the communion line was a controversy.  I first took note of it when we went to a church on Tuesday and the priest gave me a really weird look when we went up for communion.. (I guess I was holding the toddler up next to my face haha).  After reading about it, I guess I'm okay with the priest either giving/not giving a blessing.. but it seems like kind of a weird thing to get in a hussy over.. there's much bigger fish to fry..
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Not a fan of extreme conservatism - so prior to discovering all these conservative/traditional blogs, I had really only been exposed to thinking that was liberal, left-leaning, and non-orthodox.  I'm almost equally annoyed at the super conservative traditional blogs..  and their comboxes.  I'm not sure what it is.  Its not that they are advocating for heinous things but the legalism and nose-turning at folks is kind of a turn-off.  I don't think its helpful for the cause of evangelization - maybe these thoughts should not be blogged in a public atmosphere and should be kept in one's head.  Just sayin'.  Some of these things sound like a resounding gong.
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Election Woes - I had forgotten to register to vote on time. :(  I found out about the deadline about an hour after it had passed.  My husband found my registration online in a different county - I tried to go vote early but got rejected.  Fortunately, my vote doesn't really make a difference in my state.  Not thrilled at all with the election results though.  Our country needs prayers!
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Baby Clothes  x 1 year- When my baby was 2 months old, she was in the 97th% for weight.  I mean.. her cheeks hung down from her face and her thighs were double-thunder!  We were in 18 month clothes by 9 months.  Its so true what people say though - she has finally slimmed down a little to the point where I can squeeze her folds into the 12 month pajamas.  Unheard of!  Using last years winter clothes for this year!  
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Lesson from the Iron Chef - I learned something from watching TV!  I think on one episode of Iron Chef America, Alton Brown was commenting on how efficient one of the chefs was at peeling ginger - with a spoon!  I tried that - its so true!

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Thursday, November 1, 2012

7 Quick Takes - the Third!

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WHAT is in the sand volleyball pit at the park?  I went to the park today and have been almost continually itching all over since then.  My toddler decided to go-to-town in the sand volleyball pit (woohoo I don't need to build a sensory table anymore!) and then smeared sand all over herself and ate some too.  Somehow (of course) it got smeared all over me!  Even after a thorough wash, I'm still itching all over!.  Please please please no lice or scabies! PLEASE!  And I really hope the toddler doesn't get some intestinal parasite.
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Books ADD - seriously, what is my problem?  I made some progress reading Pride & Prejudice (I even got to the scenes when Mr Collins appears) but then I saw a new book in my husbands convention bag that he got for free so I had to read that too, and also my new book, Designing Your Own Classical Curriculum came in the mail, so I started reading that too.  Did I mention I also found this and this to read as well?  If only all the pages I read added up to one whole book.  Le sigh....
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Spooked by Halloween -took my kid to toddler storytime at the library on Halloween.  They did a cute puppet show where a witch can't pick the pumpkin out of the patch.. and then a ghost and a vampire show up.. and I don't know how it ends because when the ghost and vampire made their appearance, the child turned into a screaming banshee and I had to run out of there!  Smart girl - run away from occult-looking stuff!
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Pants-vs-Skirts -Recently discovered the "controversy" of whether women wearing skirts is better than pants.  Just so you know - I think either is fine and either can be modest or immodest.  One thing skirts-only folks like to point out is that one can do anything in the right kind of skirt.  Here's my challenge question:  how do you teach your child how to hop like a frog in a skirt?!

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Blogosphere - I'm really enjoying reading all the blogs out there.  10 years ago I was on Xanga exclusively, and it was just all us college buddies reading each others thoughts and rants..  Seems like there's so much more out there, and reading all these great blogs makes me want to be a better person! :)  I look forward to reading all my RSS feeds every time I have to put the tot down for sleepy-time!

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Coffee:  God's Gift to Mothers (and everyone else) - coffee is awesome.  it elevates my mood, helps my alertness, makes me smarter..  heck, it even raises the dead. (ha ha ha.)  My friend discovered a Christian company that makes coffee!  I guess thats two alternatives to Starbucks that I know of:  Mystic Monk and His Coffee Co.

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Organization FAIL - 2 months ago I enthusiastically tried to start a control journal via FlyLady..  I almost went to buy a nice expensive pretty binder to fit everything in but I told myself, "No no, not until you have a REAL journal, otherwise it will be just another binder sitting under the table."  I know myself well.  My "Control Journal" is now a felt board "organizer" for the toddler.  Oops. :(

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Encountering Loneliness

After a toddler tantrum fiasco at the local libray, I took the screaming child to a nearby park within a nice suburban neighborhood for the first time...  and thought of a recent post of Jennifer Fulwiler's off of her blog at NCRegister which talked about how women were reluctant to stay at home because of social isolation..
The neighborhood and park seemed deserted!  There was the occasional lawnservice truck that drove by and maybe one woman walking, but that was it. I was kind of disappointed that there weren't other small kids to be seen.

Then there was an old Asian man who was walking around... he just sat down on the bench in front of where my daughter, my friend, and I were. I didn't turn around (because I thought that this was mildly creepy) but I knew he was staring! He got up a few minutes later, and said a loud "NI HAO" (meaning "hello" in Chinese) at me as he walked by..and went to the other side of the park.

Well, we ended up at the other side of the park eventually, and the man came up to me and started talking (since now he knew I understood Chinese since I responded to his "NI HAO" earlier).  After some basic demographics questions, he exclaimed, "I AM SO LONELY HERE!!!," he had been here for about 5 months living with his adult children (in their 40s) - he himself is 76, and his adult children do not have children here.  He doesn't speak English and doesn't have a car.  Nobody is around the neighborhood.  He begged to hold my toddler..  He asked about the meaning of Halloween (funny.. I just listened to a blurb about it on Catholic radio) -and I told him about today being All Saints.  Its too bad that he is leaving the country (maybe for good) on Sunday -otherwise I would have invited him to church...  There are a lot of Chinese people there his age who speak and understand Chinese much better than me. (In the middle of our conversation, he asked.. DO YOU UNDERSTAND ANYTHING I AM SAYING? ;-))  I did extricate myself from the conversation since it was time to feed the baby, and he kept exclaiming that he was so glad that he met me :).  Funny, I did kind of feel a grandpa-ish connection with him -I'm glad I met him too!  He is now in my prayers. 

I felt so bad for him.  I wonder if this is how most immigrants/visitors who don't speak the language feel when they come visit for extended periods of time.  I wonder if this is how my parents generation or grandparents feel.  I should call my grandmother more often... (even if I don't understand the conversation).